Marriage can be hard work. Ask anyone that has been married for any length of time and they will tell you that it is not only a job, it is an adventure – and often times not exactly what you thought you were signing up for.
My husband hit a rough patch not too long back and took the whole family on the ride with him. The easy thing to do during these tough times is to hide or leave. Facing them down and plowing ahead can be painful, tearful and even scary, but the only way to the other side is to go through.
My Tips for Pushing Through
1. Stop talking about it. Yes, we do need the support and encouragement of friends and family. Yes, we do need to let off a little steam now and then. No, I do not accomplish anything good by complaining all of the time. It is only when I began to talk about solutions that my own attitude began to change.
2. Spend time every day on your knees. If you must complain, then complain to the One with all of the power. He already knows what is in your heart anyway. I start my day off speaking and praying positive words over my husband even on those days when I may not like him all that much. “The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” (KJV) James 5:26
3. Do all that you can do and know that is all that you can do. It can be easier to sit back when others are sitting back, but that does not make it right. Nothing gets done when nobody is doing it. I have to choose each day to do what I am led to do and not let the distractions of others’ actions knock me down.
Each day I have to choose to stay in this marriage. There will always be a reason or excuse or situation that will open the door to leave. Digging in and working at the relationship may simply mean turning it over to God and focusing on doing what I can do.
I would love for you to take a moment and share any tips you have for getting through those rough patches.