The only person keeping me from going where I want to go stares back at me from the mirror. If I want to change my journey then I have to take the steps that will make that change occur.Changing where I am requires that I take #action to move from where I am to where I want to be. Click To Tweet
“If you are doing what you think you are supposed to be doing then why aren’t we in a better place?”
My husband had asked me similar questions in the past. I had not responded in the sweetest manner. I didn’t yell, and I didn’t hit, but I did flip it back on him. After all, HE had to be the problem, not me. At least I knew what it was I was supposed to be doing. He didn’t have a clue. So HE had to be the problem.
This time, I mulled over the question my husband offered up and I took my time with the mulling. In the last few weeks, God has sent a slew of reminders for me to get up and get going.
Tony the Thorn must have a camera in my house, because every single time I take a seat to take a break, he calls. He dares me to be more.
Gene, Gene, the Notebook King emails me all throughout my day with words of encouragement and messages challenging me to take another step.
In each of these reminders to get up and going, I am reminded that I’m not doing it all or not doing it enough.
As I walked along, talking out my issue with my husband’s challenge, I began to see the writing on the wall. We have just enough because I am doing just enough.
I know that if there is a problem in my life then I have to start with me. I know this, but I don’t have to like it.
Admitting I am the problem is the first step. Admitting it out loud, where my husband can actually here, that may be more than a human should have to endure, but I did it. I told him that I had not been doing what I knew to be doing. I had been doing “just enough” to be able to look like I was doing what I knew to be doing.
It’s time to move from the place of “just enough” where we are getting a few crumbs to help us survive but also more than our fair share of bird poop. It’s time to take the steps that will help me do all that I need to do instead of pretending that I’m doing all that already.
Taking the Journey Beyond Just Enough
- Write it down. I built a four-foot by four-foot white board calendar where I would be able to write out everything I was trying to do. I put it up in my bedroom, so I would see it first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Seeing my accomplishments keeps me accountable to myself of what I have done and what more I need to be doing.
- Build up to the next level. This is a journey – made up of multiple steps, multiple actions, and multiple shifts. If I try to think about it all at the same time then I’m likely to be crushed by the enormity of it. But, if I break it down. If I take a little step and then keep adding to the little, I will build up to the next level of my possibility.
- Avoid listening to the naysayers. There will always be someone that says you will never be able to do it – whatever your “it” may be. Either avoid letting them know about your steps towards your “it” or just find a way to avoid them.
- Build a wall of encouragement – or find your own Tony the Thorn to keep you challenged. When you have people around you that ask if you are moving in the better direction – always with a heart of hope and possibility and never a dagger of condemnation – then when your own fire begins to dwindle you will have backup to stir you up and get you going again.
I am not where I want to be because I am not doing what I know I need to do to get to that place. Instead, I have settled into a place of “just enough” that has resulted in a life of “just enough.” If I want more, and I do, then I am going to have to do the more that will move me there.
It is up to me. It is not the fault of my husband. It is not the fault of my neighbor. It is not the fault of the government (local, state, or national). It is me.
Until I make the choice to the actions I will not have the desired results. Just enough will be where I stay as long as I do just enough to look like I’m doing what needs to be done.