Submission is Not a Dirty Word

Submission. It’s not a word most women like – at least not this woman, anyway. I was born stubborn and worked for years to perfect the attitude not to submit.

  • Be bold.
  • Be strong.
  • Be forceful.

My mother wrote in my baby book that I was stubborn and obstinate (and boy, oh boy, does my husband like to remind me of this).

Sometimes, I think that I’m the comic relief in the day of God. Why else would I get to the place of perfect stubbornness, only to discover submission? It’s all through the scripture.

  • Submit to God
  • Submit to authority
  • Submit to your husband.

Ugh! Just thinking about it makes my skin crawl.

Thank God he’s patient (I do on a daily basis)! He’s taking his time remolding and directing my attitude.

Embrace the power of submission!

I’ve recently come to understand the importance of submitting to my husband. I wanted an addition. There was a new baby on the way and we had to have the room. I found a way to get the money – even though we committed to not borrow money ever again.

I talked a reluctant husband into agreeing with me. We got a loan, I got the addition, and the disasters started right off.

What happened? I’ve come to understand that the reason I need to submit to my husband is that he is the timing. If he’s not ready, then it’s not time.

So I announced yesterday at bible study (out loud and to witnesses) that I was going to go the whole week without saying no to my husband or arguing with him.

Believe me, you aren’t the only one that laughed.

But I was determined. I was motivated. I was stubbornly focused (yes, I see the irony).

I made it for six hours.

I recovered, and have made it most of this day without any more slip-ups.

Making the choice to be submissive is more than doing with others’ say or want. It is a focus on doing what God has uniquely designed me to do. It may not always be fun, but submission is not a dirty word.

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  • I have a friend who used to say about submission, “I have never indulged in that”. God is dealing with me about that right now. What you said about my husband being the timing was profoundly for me. God has been dealing with me about waiting too.

  • Thanks for your thoughts, Deborah. I feel for your growth time. I know that if you will let Him, God will work wonders beyond words through this time. Let me know how it goes 😉

  • “I made it six hours.” haha! That cracks me up! 🙂 I can so relate to this post. I want so badly to be a good, submissive wife and I have such a hard time. I am a first born child, I was raised by only my mother (so I saw a woman in charge of everything), and my husband was the baby. Boy were we in for some surprises! haha! We’ve been married almost 16 years and we’re doing a lot better than we used to be but I’m still a work in progress. 🙂

    Thanks for visiting my blog so I could find yours! I wanted to add you to my blog surfer but since yours isn’t a wordpress blog it won’t let me. UGH! I’ll have to remember to come back and see you. 🙂