They Do NOT Have a Say
They do not have a say in what I do or where I go or which dreams or legitimate. In truth, even when I listen to what they say over what my heart pleads, they still don’t have a say in the outcome.
I might act like they do, or even believe that they do, but they don’t.
#QuoteoftheDay
If you aren’t willing to accept responsibility
then you will never have the power
to move forward in purpose.
– Kathryn Lang
Who Is In Charge Here
I got good at not taking responsibility. I avoided leadership positions because I didn’t want anyone looking to me. They did and I gladly did what needed to be done, as long as it wasn’t my name next to the “buck stops here” point.
- I did it in high school.
- I did it in college.
- I did it (to some extent) while homeschooling the kids.
- I definitely have done it in my volunteer opportunities.
I don’t want to be in charge. “I am not the responsible adult.”
But I am in charge. It’s not up to you to make my life better, or easier, or on track. And you can’t do it anyway. That’s why we teach fishing.
We are all in charge of our journey. We have to get up each morning and take the step . . . just one . . . and then find the momentum, energy, focus, and grit to take the next step – one more step is how we get there.
Trusting They
They told me to get insurance and it would cover any issues. I read the policy and it did cover a lot. And then there was a tornado and they all did everything they could to not do what they promised to do. I had trusted what they told me and it hurt my heart when they didn’t follow through.
They told me that if I did the world then I would get a check. I did the work and then went above and beyond the requested efforts. When the time came, the check didn’t. They did everything they could to get out of what they promised. I blamed myself this time. GET IT SIGNED IN WRITING.
They told me that the court system would correct all of the misunderstandings. They told me that the people on the jury couldn’t miss the truth. When the decision came in – split, but leaving us behind where we had started, I realized they didn’t really care about me.
They are in it for what works for them.
As long as I’m waiting for things to work out the way THEY promise, I’ll be waiting (and that check is probably going to arrive first).
Choosing to Accept Responsibility
I am where I am because of choices I have made. Yes, they have done a lot of things to annoy the situation (and me), but it was one choice at a time that led me to the place where I am. If I want things to be different then I have to make better choices to get there.
It is up to me.
It is my responsibility.
They do not have a say in my struggles or in my successes. They do not have a say in my direction or my stagnation. They do not have a say in my plan or in the steps that I have to take to get to where I want to go.
The simple truth is that it’s all on me. The big question is not that I’m taking responsibility, what’s next?
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When was the last time you followed your heart instead of the demands they yelled?
Share your ideas and thoughts on how THEY have derailed you and how you recovered, and if you would like to read more about my journey, ask me for today’s post link!
Excellent points and part of the reason I created the Secret Leader Monday Morning Mentoring Moment. The newsletter helps you build credibility and confidence in being the leader you already are. We all start somewhere. The critical element is to…well… START!!
No matter what – if you don’t start then you can’t go! 😀