We Are All In This Together

We are in this together – sometimes whether we want to be or not. It turns out that no matter how hard you try, you can’t do it on your own and you definitely can’t journey alone.

Since we are going to be in it together, we might as well be open and honest about the journey. This is not opening up to door to a whinefest or the encouraged sharing of PLOM disease. Instead, think of this as a call to be open, honest, authentic, raw, and real with the people you have in your relationship foundation.

If you don’t ask, seek, and knock, how can you expect an answer?

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When you need more than you have in you to do what has bloomed in your heart, that’s when you should tap into your relationship foundation.

You Have To Be Willing To Ask

I shared the journey my husband and I had been on with some of my networking group. Several pieces had come together. And even though there were more hurdles than successes, I knew we were closer than ever to experiencing a breakthrough.

After my overjoyed exclamation, my friends said nothing for too long. It’s easy to get nervous when others don’t chime in. Maybe I was going down the wrong path and they didn’t want to tell me. Or it could it be that I was expecting too much.

No. This time, I knew it was right. Too many things from too many different directions had confirmed the truth.

Finally, Russ spoke up. “You have to be willing to ask.”

What Does It Mean To Ask

I made a list of chores, broke them down into daily little bits, and had a backup schedule to guide us in case a day was missed. The chore chart hung in the kitchen. But unless I asked the others in the family to help, the somehow missed the truth that I couldn’t do it all alone.

Earlier this year, I read The Blessed Life by Robert Morris. From it, I got the impression that God has givers out there and He guides them to give. I invested most of the year in prayer and petition to God, but said very little to people.

God would take care of that, right?

During my Scripture readings, I began to see a glimpse of the power we get when we share our plans with wise advisors. Which led me to think about how I work through projects and events. I get ideas, I share ideas, and then we find ways to merge it all together in a coherent plan.

I’m willing to talk to others about one aspect of what I’m doing, but for some reason, I had placed a barrier between me and others in other areas.

When Russ spoke up, hit the heart of the idea that I needed to be open to telling others and asking for support.

Going Together

It’s better when we go together. The journey just isn’t as much fun when you are on it alone.

As a teenager, I wasn’t quite normal (I know, shock AND dismay). I liked to do unexpected things to have fun. One of my favorite games was Red Light – or that’s what we called it. When we pulled up to a red light, the driver would yell, “Red light.” Everyone would jump out, run around the car, and try to get back in before the driver.

Because if the driver got back in first, she might drive away without you.

It was fun and funny because we were together. I only tried it once alone and all it did was make people look at me even weirder than normal.

Okay, that last part wasn’t true. But you could picture it, couldn’t you? And it seemed more sad than fun. Because doing something alone like playing Red Light is not the way it’s supposed to be. We are called to go together.

Going For The Ask

If you are struggling to take your next step, ask a friend for help. Going it alone doesn’t make you better, it simply makes you lonelier.

• Ask for advice from someone who has gone before.
• Request particular assistance with a task.
• Inquire about alternate routes or paths.

I took Russ’s advice. I started sending out emails asking folks to support The Abundant Life program that my husband and I have been developing. The first email made me want to throw up. I had to fight down the flock of seagulls swarming in my stomach (as opposed to the normal butterflies). By the fifth or sixth email, the seagulls had taken off and the butterflies were doing their thing.

I can live with the butterflies.

It’s scary asking others for whatever it is you need for the next step. Will they reject you? Will they support you? Will they just ignore you?

All you can do is ask and then you have to lean in on the belief that you are doing what you’re supposed to be doing and trust that it will all work out.

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Are you willing to reach out and ask, seek, and knock to get to where you believe you are designed to go?

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