How to Find Your Way to Being Modest in Today’s Society

A friend recently shared a blog post by Joel Michael Herbert about “Modest is the hottest.” I’m not sure I would have even noticed the conversation if not for three events that preceded the posting.

First, a reporter for Congress was blocked from entering the Speaker’s lobby because she was wearing a sleeveless dress. There is a dress code tradition for men, for women, and yes, even for reporters. She violated the tradition and was kept from entering.

This incident led some of the women of Congress to stage a protest. It made headlines and ate up some of the news feeds.

Second, the LPGA announced a new set of strict dress code regulations. The new code included the rule that a skirt had to cover everything, even when the golfer was bending over. One story in Golf Digest claimed the LPGA Tour seemed to be taking a step backward with the new dress code.

I offer a respectful golf clap. The PGA requires the men to wear pants – khakis or slacks -with a collared shirt. I’m not sure why this new dress code for the ladies is getting such noise.

Finally, a good friend of mine was traveling by airplane, something he NEVER does. He is in a wheelchair and was shocked at how much of a show he received from the women in the airport and on his flights. “Don’t they know I’m RIGHT THERE?” He sent me a flurry of texts that ended with the declaring, “I’m driving home.”

He did not choose to be in the position he was in, but from that position, he was getting way more than he bargained for.

[tweetthis]Modesty works alongside etiquette and shows consideration for all involved. Agree? [/tweetthis]

According to the article, my friend is responsible for what he sees. I promise my friend would disagree. It was forced upon him. He had no choice. He couldn’t get up and walk away. He couldn’t even get up to change the perspective – so to speak.

I have to say that growing up in the South, I am always shocked when this is an issue. We were expected to wear skirts to church, with pantyhose under the skirt might I add (not so bad from about October to March, but during the summer months it was painful). The guys were expected to wear sleeves and ties – coats were preferred. It was respectful for where we were going and also respectful to each other.

I can still remember the first time my grandmother wore a pants suit to church – although it was below freezing outside and it wasn’t a Sunday Service. She went back to a skirt the next Sunday.

Society wants me to believe that modesty is a bad thing. Society wants me to believe that I have the right to wear what I want. Society wants me to believe that what you see is your problem, not mine.

Finding the better way

I have to make the choice to see past the limitations society is trying to set. It is when I find the Truth – about modesty, about how I behave and act, and about what is truly the RIGHT path – that I become free to live the life I was designed to live.

Find your Truth instead of allowing society to tell you what it is.

Be blessed,
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  • This was really good Kathryn! I so wish that more Christian women understood true, biblical modesty. And were willing to do it for Christ… not for men, or the world, but to honor our Lord! And, because they’re worth more than objectification!

    • Thanks for visiting and for sharing your thoughts. I think what hit it home for me was my dear friend FREAKING OUT while traveling. His text messages had me rolling, but I felt his pain.

      Be blessed,