Being a good wife is important to me. I want my husband to shout my praises at the city gates. On good days I feel like he doesn’t even see me. On the bad days I feel like I am failing him in every direction.
That’s how it was.
Several years ago I came to the understanding that I can not make my husband happy. It doesn’t matter what I do or how well I do it. My husband’s happiness is not in my hands. At the same time I can not make my husband do what is right or change him in any way for that matter. That was the biggest realization.
It turns out that God is in control. Go figure!
I started concentrating on my own behaviors, habits and attitudes. It helped with my husband, for a season. He slips back into the old days now and then. The great thing is that I don’t beat myself up when he does. I know that I am doing what I am suppose to be doing, and his mood swings offer me the opportunity to check and see if any directional changes need to be made in my own life.
I AM a good wife. It is through my relationship with God that I am growing to do all that He has called me to do. Budgeting my energy, time, finances and other resources allows me to pick up, clean up, straighten up, fix up and on and on until all of the to-dos on my list are done.
It was the relationship with God that allowed the Proverbs 31 Woman to be as amazing as she was. My strength, wisdom and abilities are not enough. It is the power of the Holy Spirit in me that makes it possible.