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    I’d always heard that you should expect the best from everyone and they will live up to that; expect less and they will live down to it. And I soon proved (beyond a reasonable doubt) that zero expectations yields zero effort from others. They no longer even try. So where is that balance? Just this week I began to raise my expectations of a long-term associate. I KNOW they can do it. But they didn’t. And I’m not sure why. I doubt it was any intention to deceive. I’m no doctor, so I can’t discern if it is a mental health problem. I do know they have sabotaged several of their own grand plans recently. And I had to remove the trigger – both the ones affecting them and those affecting me.
    I love this post. And I love the idea of keeping things as uncomplicated as they can be. I do a lot of teaching and training. And this week an old meme came to mind. I can explain it for you, but I cannot understand it for you. Some things are literally impossible. The best we can do is to keep it simple, uncomplicated, and give that your best effort. For yourself and for others.

    • First, thank you so much for your wonderful comment.
      Second, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your saying: I can explain it to you but I can’t understand it for you.
      Third, the simpliest thing for me is to provide my words (explain) and then let it go.
      Kathryn